Monday, March 22, 2010

Remembering Sheri

Brent's little sister Sheri was 15 when Brent and I got married. She attended BYU Hawaii and served an LDS mission. Shortly after she married Eric, they moved to Lolo, Montana. Because our earthly acquaintance was relatively short, "remembering" Sheri feels more like recalling the feeling of her presence and loving her through the stories of Brent's family.

Sheri would have been 34 years old on Sunday. She passed away last August while giving birth to her second child. Yesterday we gathered to remember the blessing of her in our lives and to celebrate the selfless gift of her two daughters.

We started at the cemetery where we left notes, flowers and pictures at Sheri's grave site. We tied some messages to helium-filled balloons and the kids released them. We ate dinner and birthday cake at Brent's parents' home and finished by watching home videos of Sheri as a young girl.
Sheri's death causes me to think often of the things I know and believe. It is hard to reconcile how faith changes when it is tested in reality. Now the things that I know feel so small compared to those I don't and I think that was probably the same for Sheri.

Sheri knew that Eric was the right guy for her...that he was cute, funny, kind and good. She didn’t know what an incredible parent he would be with or without her.

Sheri knew that she wanted to be a mother. Even when it was hard and tiring, she was grateful for the experience. She didn’t know that her time as a mom would be so short.

Sheri knew that having children would require hard work and sacrifice. She didn’t know that she would have to literally forfeit her life for her daughters.

I know that our families can be together again after this life. I don’t know why learning and really understanding the importance of this comforting knowledge can hurt so much sometimes.

I love you, Sheri.

14 comments:

Andrea said...

This is a beautiful post; I can't stop crying. It was a lovely day, I just wish she would have been here with us to celebrate.

Kristen said...

That baby is beautiful. It's wonderful that she is surrounded by so many loving and caring family members.

Beautiful post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Mandy said...

Love it. What a beautiful way to celebrate her!I am crying while thinking of that awefull day. So hard to loose the ones we love. The ones left behind do not know the why's, but the ones gone DO KNOW. I know that you and your Family are doing a great job of loving her by the way you live and by loving her girls. Love you Rita....

Beverly said...

Yes. I don't know why it happened, but I know I'll see her again. Thanks for this beautiful post, Rita.

Scott said...

What a fitting, wonderful way to express our feelings about Sheri. Thank you, Rita.

Lonni said...

This is very nice, Rita. Thanks for sharing.

Colett's Corner said...

What a wonderful tribute Rita. Your family is so lucky to have you. You give strength in so many ways.

Debbie said...

Oh, wow. This choked me up. I was just writing on your FB wall about how we're both emotional.

I love how your wrote this. Life isn't easy, but we're definitely never alone. I'm inspired by your family, your love and support for each other, and this sweet Sheri's life.

Amy and Brad said...

Beautifully written, Rita. So neat that the family all got together to remember Sheri on her birthday.

Wayne and Stephanie Carter said...

Sister...that was lovely.

...Pilling Family... said...

Love you big sister. That was really nice. My heart hurts when I think about it.

Melissa said...

Thank you Rita for this wonderful post. What an emotional 6 months our family has had, but how it's made us all so much more grateful for family.

Deanna Quinton Larson said...

What a beautiful post!! Tears in my eyes right now...... With the deaths lately in my life I know somewhat of your struggle to understand but your eloquence in these ideas has been touching to the core. Thank you for showing us a glimpse of your heart.

McKenzie said...

Darling Rita, the post was beautiful and the day sounded wonderful!